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| D. H. Lawrence, world famed author (1906) (Photo credit: Wikipedia) |
D.H. Lawrence said that love is "having courage of your tenderness." How? How this tenderest act of humans can be interpreted as "courage"? In a cultural tradition that was built upon the absence of love, namely Chinese, love is one of the most coward traits of humans. Coldness, even cruelty are the showcase of "courage". Oh, I feel so sorry for this culture!
But still, why showing our tenderness is a courageous thing to do? Because, tenderness, represents a fully acceptance of another individual, an individual with consciousness, with a whole inner world that could be totally different from our own, yet so identical in a way. It is not another "person" we are afraid, it is another universe, an unknown entity that we are afraid of. It seems, that since human developed consciousness, nothing has been more frightening than "unknown". Death is frightening because it is "unknown", another culture can be frightening, because of unknown. And individual, the most complicated entity, with a whole different "soul", no doubt can be the most frightening subject. Thus, showing our tenderness to another person, to embrace this another "universe" unreservedly, is indeed a courageous act.
Yes, I have to agree with D.H.Lawrence on this, that the true heroes are those who dare to LOVE!
Happy Valentine's Day!
Yun, I have to agree with D.H. Lawrence too, and with you. There is courage to tenderness, to opening yourself to fully accepting another individual and that is a definition of love. Lovely Valentine’s Day post!
ReplyDeleteI forgot to mention "to open yourself ..." Thanks Madilyn!
DeleteDaring to love means being vulnerable and baring yourself to the great unknown, and that most certainly takes courage. Nice post, Yun!
ReplyDeleteNicely put, Kris! Again, as I said to Madilyn, I forgot to mention "to open yourself", "being vulnerable...".
DeleteGreat post, yunyi. Lawrence is one of my favorite writers because he was a person who truly understood nature and loved life. People hate to show their need, their tender side, but that is what love requires.
ReplyDeleteThanks Marty! I also enjoyed his novels. I read "Son and Lover" during my 20s.
DeleteGreat insight.
ReplyDeletethanks mariana!
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