March 26, 2011

Understand Hatred

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Definition from Wikipedia: Hatred (or hate) is a deep and emotional extreme dislike, directed against a certain object or class of objects.
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Like "Love", "hate" is a natural feeling which we all naturally possess. So there is nothing wrong with hatred itself.

"Love" and "hate" are two sides of one coin. One can love, one can also hate.

Any kinds of man-made disasters, such as wars, religion persecutions, miserable life experiences, etc., were not caused by "hatred", or at least "hatred" alone, but ignorance, narrow mind, selfishness, power abuse, etc.

A "hateful" person is not someone who doesn't love, but someone who only "love" him/herself. Because of this reason, a hateful person consider everyone else beside him/her as enemies, not as commensals (term?), or friends. This is how the life of a hateful person is full of hatred - because he/she is living in a "dangerous" environment everyday.

A hateful person can "love", but his/her "love" is rooted on possessiveness. This type of "love" may produce some temporary "happiness", but at the end it leads a person to miserable (even endless) sufferings.
A loving person can also "hate", but his/her hate is rooted on the love of life. This type of "hate" may riskly produce some sufferings, but it also creates chances to final justice and peace.

Like love can only do good when it grows in a loving heart, hate can only do harm when it grows in a hateful person.
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March 20, 2011

Artists vs. Thinkers

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Generally speaking, being an artist all you need is TALENT. Artistic talent is well respected through most time in history and almost anywhere around the world, because usually creative art does not jeopardize the social stability and people's narrow minds. So being an artist is not much about "courage", or "difficulty", but "capability".

Being an individual thinker is quite different - one not only need TALENT (the talent of creative thinking), but also courage. This is because almost at any time in history, or in any places in this world, creative thoughts and ideas would easily intimidate political powers and upset majority people who blindly defend orthodox ideology. So, even if an individual thinker did not live in a despotic country where his/her life might end up in jail, he/she would still very likely face more or less degree of mental isolation due to their different stands from social ideology.

For this reason, I admit that while I respect artistic talent, I do admire thinkers more.

P.S. This comparison is based on general features of these two "professions" (even though I believe neither one of them should be a "profession"). From a wider perspective, any creativities - intelligent or artistic - require "courage".

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March 18, 2011

Passion vs Reason

They Found a ReasonImage by Peregrino Will Reign via FlickrPassion and reason do not function contradictorily, but complementarily.

What contradicts passion is apathy; what contradicts reason is irrationalism.
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March 13, 2011

Intelligence vs. Wisdom


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Intelligence is an ability to know;
Wisdom is an ability to be happy.
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March 3, 2011

"Positive Attitude"


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Nowadays the psychological fashion of "being positive" in many cases means simply "ignoring all 'negative" facts, or at least do not mention them at all. By this definition, I do think the best role model of "positive attitude" is news media in China.
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March 1, 2011

Wealth

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The most expensive treasure on this earth is spiritual freedom. So whoever is spiritually free, whoever is the richest "plutocrat" in the world.
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February 26, 2011

Forgiveness vs. Unforgiveness

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(The forgiveness I am trying to analyse below is about serious matters, such as serious personal offense, crimes, and any type of abuses within relationships, it dose not include the tolerance/forgiveness of differences in ideas, wrong doings of general level.)

The content of "forgiveness" consists of two parts: 1, a peaceful state of mind that has transcended the painful/unfair past; 2, a willingness of re-building relationship with offenders.
The former is prerequisite of the latter, but it dose not necessarily lead to the latter.

Forgiveness is CONDITIONAL: 1, it requires victims emotional strength (transcending the past - recovery from damages and regain self esteem); 2, offenders' efforts to earn forgiveness*.
Forgiveness without both of these conditions is irrational, unreal and will not survive long.

Forgiveness is a strength. This is because that "feeling" is like a bank account, the more "saving" we have, the more "expense" we can make. So the more emotionally secure and more loving we are, the more capable we are to be compassionate, or to forgive.

When someone is abundantly loving, forgiveness can be a "charity". However, if someone practices this "charity" of "forgiveness" completely aimlessly or unconditionally, he/she is no more than a rich person showing off his/her wealth by giving out money away unnecessarily. In other words, this "charity" will not do any good, except functioning as a decoration of our personal strength.

I think unforgiveness usually has two reasons: victims' insufficiency of emotional strength; 2, offenders' lack of effort to earn forgiveness.
The unforgiveness caused by both or either of these reasons is totally reasonable, and worth our sympathy. As outsider, we should not encourage victims to "forgive" their offenders just for the sake of "forgiveness", because it is natural for a person to moan when he/she is suffering, and it is natural for us to defend ourselves when we are under attack. In other words, when any type of unfair conflicts happened and produced damages to one sides, victims' right should be always our the first concern.


*Susan Forward had some excellent analysis on this in her book "Toxic Parents".
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February 25, 2011

Common Sense

"Common sense" only works in general. Using common sense judge individual cases inevitably leads to prejudice. Yet this is what most people do.

The fact that "common sense" cannot summarize every inch of reality shows a simple truth: the complexity of Nature (or reality) is far beyond our general reasoning.

"A Thousand Years of Good Prayer"


This is a short/sweet/a little bitter movie about generation gap within a Chinese family: a father comes to America to visit her daughter who lives in US about 12 years and find he had to confront the "gap" between them.

I enjoyed the nice flow of the story line. The conversations jumped around different languages was amusing and how the father communicated with his neighbors and even made friend with a "foreign" lady (who had quite similar family experience) was very interesting. It was nicely done. I like the father a lot (wish I had one like that:-)). How he describes he gave name to his daughter made me tear up a little.

However, If this movie convince people that this type of problem represents most of Chinese families' problems, I would disagree. There are much worse "problems" exists in Chinese families between generations. This movie ascribes the cause of problems to external: the job, society, etc., which doubtlessly is the case, but I believe the real "Chinese" family problems are "internal", far beyond this common "human factor".

The real "Chinese" family problems come from Chinese tradition, "Tiger mother" alike, which is the lack of true love on parents side, the retrogression (not sure if this is the right word) of human nature caused by so call "culture", or "tradition". This type of parents may not necessarily "majority" but their ideas prevail within Chinese communities (both in China and oversea) and the damage it made on Chinese people is beyond repair.

I would love to see this side of stories revealed one day. It would be real dark, almost black, and I suppose many Chinese people will not like it.

February 21, 2011

Friendship

Friendship is the kind of relationship in which we share what's common, embrace what's different (among us).

What really damages a friendship is not time, space, shortcomings, or differences of ideas, but judgement.

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After finishing writing this note and discussing on BlogCatalog, I realized there are lots of more aspects affect friendships, and the differences of ideas do separate friends.

February 20, 2011

Conformity - a Hidden Murderer


Conformity is the easiest way (not necessarily the best way) to avoid "loneliness" - the worst fear of human being. For the sake of "conformity", many people do literally ANYTHING - "love", "passion", hate, violence, even murder. That's why discrimination prevails during peacetime, and how mass murders are committed during wartime.

Conformity really is the "weakest link" of human nature, a hidden murderer of most "hate crimes", and the true cause of many historical man-made disasters.

*Eric Fromm's "Escape From Freedom" had a profound analysis on this matter. It had almost a "permanent" influence on me since I read the book over 20 years ago.




February 19, 2011

Education, experience, intelligence and wisdom.


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Experience alone does not bring us wisdom. Education alone does not make us more intelligent.

February 16, 2011

Experience, Hardship and Wisdom


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Hardship is not necessarily a prerequisite for wisdom, but a wise mind can certainly benefit from hardship, just like it benefits from any kind of life experiences.

Any experience has its limitation. Experience itself does not bring wisdom. What makes wisdom is a capability of transcending experience, i.e. when facing hardship, one is able to keep hope and tranquil spirit hence overcomes misery; or when living an ordinary life, one is able to experience extraordinary hence goes beyond mediocrity.
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February 15, 2011

A Picture That Made My Day!


San Francisco is my dream place on this earth. Maybe it would not be so perfect as I dream if I really lived there, but still, the place seems to be unbelievable romantic, cultural rich and full of beautiful scenery.

This is a picture taken by my dear friend Helen who just finished visiting USA from UK. And it proves my dream: peaceful ocean breeze, giant looking bridge, clear sky and tranquil horizon, a heavenly place on this earth.

To prove my love to this city, see this post:







February 14, 2011

Winning the "Games"


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The time we start embracing our enemies, is the time we start winning the games.
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"Maturity"


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"Maturity", sometime is marked not by age, but the growth of prejudice.









Fact, Idea and Truth


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When people failed to comprehend some plain facts, it is not that these facts were too complicated to human brains, nor these facts were not sufficiently described, but people's IDEAS restricted their basic capability of understanding.



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February 4, 2011

Materialism, Who Is To Blame? --- An inquiry into Chinese cultural tradition


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Edited by Anji Sandage

From a philosophical point of view, materialism represents some of the most negative aspects of our human nature, such as greed, selfishness, and inhumanity. It would be unjustified to put the label of “materialism” on any single ethnic group. However, being Chinese, I find it hard to ignore the excessive materialism in modern China, where money seems to be the sole “religion” in many people’s lives.
There are many reasons for this phenomenon - poverty, the social system, and even communism itself, but I have found all of these reasons to be superficial. I believe many Chinese people's “passion” for money has little or nothing to do with the reasons listed above. Instead, it has EVERYTHING to do with Chinese cultural ideology.
In China, there are two influential classical philosophies - Confucianism and Taoism - that dominate Chinese cultural ideology, and have for thousands of years of Chinese history. Both of these philosophies focus primarily on the practical aspects of human existence, or the “mundane.” Briefly speaking, Confucianism is about social stability while Taoism is about individual happiness. Even though Buddhism came to China during the early part of the first millennium and has undoubtedly had a great influence on Chinese culture, like Taoism, it is still a belief system focused mainly upon individual happiness. Soon after Buddhism spread throughout China, it quickly merged with Chinese culture and branched off into several sects and schools, the most common being Zen Buddhism, a school of Mahayana, with a following of between 500 and 1,000 million people throughout Korea, China, Japan and Vietnam.
Before the 19th century, China was almost completely closed off from the outside world. When China first opened its doors to the west in the middle of 19th century, these two philosophies were the whole content of the body of knowledge understood by Chinese intellects. It is a common belief in China that Knowledge isn’t something that can or should stand alone, but rather it is a subsidiary part of political or practical life. In ancient China, the only purpose for gaining knowledge was to gain political and social power. In his book “Mist of Metaphysics” Liu Xiaobo stated:
"One of the characteristics of Chinese culture is to provoke the human desire for power as much as possible. The path to becoming an intellectual is almost the only way to reach this goal.” [1]
In Chinese culture, there is no concept of "God" in a monotheistic sense, no sense of "divinity," and no concept of absolute "truth," neither was there any scientific spirit that existed in ancient China. In other words, there were no existing bodies of knowledge other than those with the purpose of serving mundane life. I believe it was exactly this monotonic understanding of knowledge that has shaped many Chinese people’s materialistic attitudes toward life.
Certainly both Taoism and Confucianism did not teach people to be greedy, but one important idea that both of these philosophies teach is that there is no need to question or look for anything other than matters directly related to the practicalities of life.
Taoism is a very charming philosophy and can be understood in a very positive way, for example, the ideas of following our natural spirit and making harmony in our lives with or without material comforts are very appealing to many people, and I believe this truly was the original intent of Taoist philosophy. Unfortunately, this aspect of Taoism has only been taken and practiced among some intellectuals, such as artists and poets. Among most others, Taoism was simply understood as a pathway to physical comforts and happiness.
Under such a cultural background, when China once again opened its doors to the world during the 80’s, it was more than willing to embrace capitalism, and people’s materialistic desires that had been suppressed by traditional morality for thousands of years were finally unleashed under this perfect marriage. This is why even though China is completely under communist rule; it was still able to combine the communist political system with a capitalist economic system.
Some people may blame Communism for this materialism. I would totally disagree. Not only does Communism not encourage materialism, it encourages a kind of "puritanical" lifestyle in modern China. During the 50’s, China experienced a very anti-materialism social movement where almost everyone lived in very poor material conditions, but with a zealous mental enthusiasm similar to Europe during the middle ages. Needless to say, this did more harm than good. It created one of most devastating horrors in human history, now known as The Great Leap Forward, which cost tremendous loss of life. After that, Chinese people lived in very poor conditions until the 1980’s when China once again opened up to the outside world.
I truly believe that while materialism exists in every society in this world and greed is truly a common disposition of human nature, some types of cultural ideologies encourage such philosophies and dispositions, while others discourage them. I personally view the overwhelming growth of materialism in modern China as a consequence of the poor development on Chinese intellectual property.
Once again, to quote Liu Xiaobo:
“…The worst regression in Chinese history was the revival of feudalist ideology”[2]




[1] Mist of Metaphysics, by Liu Xiaobo
[2] Mist of Metaphysics, by Liu Xiaobo
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January 30, 2011

"My motherland" - a Chinese 'Red" Song Played by a "Wolf" Pianist in White House

Opening of Chopin Year in Warsaw.Image via WikipediaRecently a famous Chinese pianist Lang Lang played a "red" song "My Motherland" during his performance in White House. This song was a theme song in a movie about a battle in Korean War during 50s. Because of this "political" or historical context, so in many Chinese people's eye, this is "anti- America" song, and Lang Lang's performance consequently stirred a huge discussion and arguments in within Chinese online communities - while many felt utmostly inappropriate, many felt proud of the performance.

A while ago, I started a thread on Blogcatalog about the musical value of "political" songs, expressed my understanding about how a song may convey different meanings by its different aspects of art form: while the lyrics can be political, the music part can be totally musical or artistic. This song "My Motherland" happens to be one of my favorite "red" songs. Despite of it's historical context, I personally think it is one of the most beautiful Chinese folk songs. The lyrics is mostly about the love to motherland (China), about a understandable patriotism. I don't see any any pro-communism and anti-America slogans. So the only reason that this song reminds Chinese people about Korean War simply is because it was used in the movie.

I might have to agree that it was not the best choice to play this song in White House but, it should not be such a big deal.

I heard radio NPR interviewing Lang Lang about his performance, he denied that he knew about the context of this song. However, when he was interviewed by Chinese news media, he expressed his "pride" of being able to play something that glorify the power of China in front of so many powerful politicians of many countries.

One thing worth to mention is, the name of this pianist "Lang", sounds exactly like "wolf" in Chinese. It happened that he was raised by a father who is as ambitious as "tigar mother", so his father was call as "wolf father" by many Chinese people. He possesses every idea the "tigar mother" does, except he is more physically powerful than that woman. In Lang Lang's biograph he remembered once he missed 2 hours of piano practice his father asked him either swallow a whole bottle of pill or, to jump from the window.

Lang Lang is now considered as a music prodigy and super famous pianist in China. His father of course is also very famous by his "superior" way of raising his "genius" son, though "it's a little too hard to understand" by normal people, as one of interviewer from a Chinese television mentioned. But because of Lang Lang's huge success, I personally believe many Chinese people would still prove his father's "hard work". And if this was true, I guess very soon more children will jump through window (or swallow pills) without their parents' pushing them.



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January 12, 2011

The impact of "Tiger mother"


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The article in WSJ "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior?" seems to have some attention the author wanted, and it looks like that the publication of the book by the same author "Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother" will be inevitably successful too.

Even though personally I intensely dislike (even pity) the author's so call "superior" way of parenting, I have to admit, that the publication of her article and book will have some positive outcomes to American people and American Chinese community.

First of all, her book uncovers a fact that once was a stereotype - the child abuse that widely existed in Chinese families. Like Amy Chua, the author of book, many Chinese parents have been conducting severe child abuse under the slogan "for children's good", though mostly of them did it UNCONSCIOUSLY. Even without physical abuse (which I believe is still ongoing in many families), the consequence of this abuse is serious - the overwhelming lack of self-esteem within Chinese people.

The so call "superior" mothering or parenting, does not only exist in China, but also in any other countries that were influenced by Confucianism: Japan, South Korea, Singapore (where Chua come from) and many other southeast Asian countries, such as Vietnam, Malaysia, etc. The core philosophy of this "superior parenting" is "obedience", generated by "strict" discipline that is conducted since the beginning of children's cognitive development. This traditional parenting has successfully implanted "obedience", or "servile" personality in Chinese people's blood all the way through Chinese history.

This exposure of the dark side of Chinese families may actually do good for Chinese people, because it will draw severe criticizes from outside of Chinese community and I believe this would help many Chinese people drop their outdated belief, make many Chinese elites re-think their "superior" parenting.

Chinese people have been so obsessed with their tradition, so proud of their "thousands years of glory" that they think if not follow what their ancestors doctrine, Chinese will not be Chinese anymore. That's why during modern history of China, almost every step of progress was made by the force from outside of country.

Secondly, I personally think Chua's book will bring some positive influence to American society. It is my observation that the American way of parenting - "over protection" - if spoke exaggeratedly - has gone to another extreme and led many problems on children: lack of self-control; incapability of hard working; extremely self-centered, etc. I even believe that this way of "parenting" was partially responsible for the country's current downside situation, and would be an obstacle for the country's recovery as well.

It is also my impression that most American people seem to over-trust our innate capability. This probably is one of reasons that some (if not many) "American mothers" do not want to push their kids in any circumstances. This over-belief may also made many American believe that many Chinese "prodigies" are born with those talents. The publications of Chua will reveal the truth behind Chinese "prodigies" - not at all all of them are geniuses, but ordinary kids raised by "tiger mothers". Of course, I don't think most American mothers will adopt Chua's "never allowed" list but, the "success" of her daughters, or many other Chinese/Asian "prodigies" would prove a fact that the Chinese way of parenting does do some good on stretching children's competitive strength, at least skill wise.

This is an article on NYT magazine yesterday: No More Mrs. Nice Mom by Judith Warner, which reflects the stir that "tiger mother" just made.

I think, beside these positive outcomes, personal wise, Chua's publication will continue damage her daughters' lives, more than she could imagine. Her daughters will be put under spotlight and live under a more stressful condition. It is not fair to them. They may think like their mother did (actually one of them already said, just like their mother said about her own parents), "without her effort, I would not be me today.." but, they may never know about another kind of life, a life that is stress free, that is sufficient without support of high academic degree and high social status.

However, I am still optimistic about two lovely daughters. I believe the diverse cultural environment in this country would nourish their later life, possibly prevent them from repeating her mother's tragedy (even though she may take it as a huge success).


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