Of course I stopped convincing her, even pretended to understand. Yes, it was obvious that even a blind could see that her husband didn't love her, but it's also obvious that it's better for her to believe that her husband loves her, simply because not being loved was something she absolutely could not bear, something thing far worse than being beaten daily.
I found it's the same way to many child abuse victims: no matter how terribly/brutally they were abused by their parents, they would still feel better to think that is just another way to "love", than to think that they were not loved at all.
At this moment I can't help thinking of our humans' "greatest" invention - religion. Isn't it the same way we love "God": regardless countless innocent people suffered and died through entire history, regardless injustice take place everyday on this earth, we still believe that our mighty God loves us, "just not in a way we want to be loved"?